Ignoring people around you and then just missing someone who you did not care for when he or she was around you, people do that all the time. I don’t know why they whine that they did not do justice to someone when they were around him or her. What good is to babble about something that u did not take care of when u had the chance to do it right? I can totally bet that even if they got another chance they would do the same thing to that person. It’s just that they try to rationalize their acts by feeling guilty and cursing themselves.
Well, whatever may be the case, I just know one thing; either care for someone who is around you or not and if u did not take care of him/ her, do not go whining about that in front of everybody because you did not care when that person was around you. Here I would like to quote a certain incident. It is about my neighbors. I used to go to their house a lot. Last year their mom got sick. She had a heart attack, they took her to the nearby hospital and luckily she survived that attack.
Coronary Artery Disease (a condition in which your arteries that supply blood to heart are occluded to due to plaque formation) was diagnosed. Doctors assessed the whole situation and for the purpose of further investigating the matter they carried out coronary angiography (a minor procedure carried out to pin point the location of clots). They suggested a bypass and put her on medications for the time being…..
The family belonged to the middle class like our family. The expenses of the operation would have been a burden on them, of course, but I think u can do that much for your dying mother, cant u? Doctor gave them two options, either to go for surgery or to choose drug therapy. They just kept delaying the surgery. And when finally it came to do or die situation, they made lame excuses like, “She is too weak to survive it, let’s not make her life more miserable.” They did not take much care of her in her life. They were careless in buying her medication and sometimes she had no drugs to take for days. They knew she was dying but none made any desperate attempt to save her. Everyone was too busy thinking about his or her family. In the end when she died the same people were saying, “Oh my God! What happened! We will never be able to overcome such a big loss. Why she had to leave us alone in this world?” What is this? At times I’m totally unable to understand behavior of people. Either they were acting or they were really sorry, I can’t tell. Anyways they were terrible. They let their mother die through their selfishness and carelessness.
Is this the worth and true nature of human relations? Many people might argue that this example was one extreme and there is the other side to every picture. But in any case I have come to make a conclusion through my experiences and learning that humans are a strange being. They say one thing and do another thing. They may say that relations matter most and that they are unconditional but that is not totally true. It is the partial truth that we teach and preach our youngsters in an attempt to compensate for the guilt we feel towards the reality of our nature. Because we all know that relations are based on compromises, common goals and self-interests, hidden or obvious. And I think this the main reason that we ignore and do not care for the people we claim to love or care for.
